Do you remember Spring Break? When the kids would be home from school, and the parents would have to figure out a different schedule for a week or so? I don’t know about you, but that feels like a distant memory to me. The new reality is that everyone is home with lots of things on hold, and nobody knows what the schedule is supposed to be. It can be a challenging time for families.
We are all feeling the strain of sheltering in place, and I am personally learning to do family life a bit differently. Here are somethings I’m finding helpful. Maybe they will be helpful to you, too.
Less “how life should go.” More “how life is.”
I don’t know about you, but I sometimes have a movie playing in my head about how stuff “should” be happening. “My living room should be cleaner.” “Dinner should be done already.” “Bedtime should be easier.” “I should remember how to do long division.” “My kid’s teacher should be teaching her long division.” None of this is helpful, especially right now. I sometimes miss connecting with my family because I’m stuck in the “should” storm. Life is weird right now. It’s ok to let your family be a little weird, too.
I sometimes miss connecting with my family because I’m stuck in the “should” storm.
Less getting back to normal. More embracing opportunity.
I could (and have) spun my wheels trying to have my family get back on some sort of normal routine. Did I mention nothing is normal? Instead, I’m learning to embrace the opportunity with my kids. We are cooking together and then having a picnic on the floor because the picnic we had planned got rained out. They are teaching me how to use Zoom and beating me at video games. This disruption to normal provides us with the opportunity to be with our families, not just in the same home.
Right now, nothing is normal.
Less avoiding. More admitting the stuff I have been avoiding.
This goes equally for the stuff at the back of the fridge and the stuff that’s hard to talk about as a family. If I’m honest with myself, I like “should” and “normal” because it allows me to keep avoiding the things I would rather keep avoiding. Staying in quarantine with my loved ones causes me to see all the things I don’t always love about them and things they don’t love about me. That’s hard. But like the mystery mold at the back of the fridge, it’s better to admit it’s there and begin cleaning it out.
Like the mystery mold at the back of the fridge, it’s better to admit it’s there and begin cleaning it out.
Less “go it alone.” More “in this together.”
You are not alone. Not by a long shot. All of us, as parents and families, are still figuring out how to make a facemask, let alone how to face family life right now. Jesus has promised never to leave us. Plus, he has placed us in a large family…His family!
You are not alone. Not by a long shot.
You have cousins and aunties and forever friends here at Powerhouse and throughout the broader church. You are not alone. You can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call us at 916.983.0658.
In Grace and Truth,
Residential Director + Executive Team